As a mom to three boys and only boys, I know I’ll be bombarded with this question by complete strangers for the rest of my life. In fact, I’ve come to expect it. I’m no longer upset or hurt by the question as I once was. Time and experience has helped me deal with it. So much so that now when people ask me the question of whether I’m going to try for a girl, I hardly flinch or get upset. I simply response back saying “We wanted three kids and we have three happy, healthy and amazing boys, why would I want anything different?” And that pretty much ends the conversation.
Now don’t get me wrong, I understand that there are people who actually would like to have kids of a certain gender. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. It’s a personal choice, albeit one that we have little control over, but I will never rob anyone of their feelings. It is what it is. However, those feelings and thoughts and needs belong to the parents and nobody else.
Lisa (fabfrugalmama) says
Well-said, Maya! People should stop projecting their own opinions, wants and needs onto others. Families come in many different combinations, and there is no “right” one. Let’s celebrate all families.
Maya Fitz says
Well said! Love you. Thanks for your love & support ❤
Debbie says
This is a beautiful post. As a mom of two boys, I get the same question all the time. “Are you going to try for a girl?” Nope, I’m going to try for a happy, healthy baby!!! That’s what is most important <3
Ruth says
Love this article.
Maria Lianos-Carbone (@amotherworld) says
Yep, even now that my boys are 10 and 12, I still get asked if I’m going to try for a girl! I’m happy with my two boys and honestly think I was meant to be a boy mom!
akbulbeck says
I have actually found as a single child parent to a girl (after many miscarriages, an ectopic, and followed by a hysterectomy at 26) that it is the parents of several boys that are pushy to have boys and how sucky girl parents are compared to boy parents. I’m happy to be a parent at all.
Sonja says
So true! Thank you so much for this post!
Jennifer Iantomasi says
I can completely relate to this post. Although it didn’t seem like enough after hearing Maddox was going to be a boy, in my heart of hearts, I know I was meant to be a mama of boys
Maya Fitz says
Awww. Love your honesty. The feelings are real both way!