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I don’t know exactly when it happened or how it happened, but lately, I’ve been getting this feeling of fleeing… of putting my hands up in the air in surrender. I don’t know if it is because I’ve been doing this stay-at-home gig for 5 + years or if it is because my three year old has decided to frequently act like As*$ole or because I’m constantly feeling tired and exhausted!\u00a0 Either way, lately I can’t seem to shake off this feeling and sometimes, I just want to give up so I can go and have a break. I often wonder if it’s the equivalent of the 7 year marriage itch. Am I experiencing the 5 year stay-at-home-mom itch (yes, I just made up that term)?<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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There is no break. Being a stay at home mom means there is NO BREAK! And by break, I don’t mean time to relax. Rather, I mean there is no change of pace, change in scenery, change in people I interact with. I remember when I was working in the corporate world, if I disliked my client or had a crappy day I could come home and feel separated, and get a much needed break before I faced work again the next day. The same is not true as a stay-at-home-mom. If I have a sh$#ty day, there’s no where to go, no where to hide, there’s no BREAK. I can’t even go to the bathroom without being followed inside. Also, there is no coffee break. I mean, I could take the boys to get coffee, but I’m not crazy! I can’t run errands or book an appointment during my lunch time. Doing any of those things with kids in tow is like trying to brush your teeth while eating an Oreo cookie.<\/p>\n

I work 9 to 5 and then 5 to 9. Every single day, including weekends. I see the same “people” (aka my three boys) every day, every hour and every minute. T H E R E \u00a0I S \u00a0N O \u00a0B R E A K!\u00a0 There is\u00a0no separation between church and state, or in my case, between work and family. \u00a0There is no change and no difference. I’m doing the same thing, with the same people, in the same place. I’m the female version of Bill Murray from Groundhog Day<\/em> finding myself in a never ending time loop.<\/p>\n

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When my “work” week wraps up, I just roll into the weekend. Although the weekends are a bit easier because my husband is around so the coverage goes from 3 (kids) on 1 (parent) to 3 (kids) on 2 (parents), it’s still hard and stressful and constant. Even my husband gets a break on the weekend when he has his weekly hockey game every Sunday (which reminds me, I really need to pick up a hobby outside of the house ASAP).<\/p>\n

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It’s a hard place to be at because it’s difficult to get rejuvenated, find more energy, or relax because there is no time… there is no break! Of course, I have options. I could go back to work and find care for my boys. But the truth is, thinking about that alternative is not appealing to me. Besides, in 2.5 years, all of my kids will be in school full time. I only have 2.5 years left with them. That’s like a millisecond in the grand scheme of things even though right now, it feels like forever! I know that if I don’t spend these last few years at home with them, I will regret it. I know that in a few years time, I’ll look back and crave this time, wishing I could turn back the clock. I won’t be able to do that and I can’t make the clock run any faster either. So right now, I’ll stay where I am, right at home with the boys. It’s not easy and there is no break, but I wouldn’t have it any other way! However, those who start having marriage issues because of their busy lives may seek couples therapy Berkeley<\/a>.<\/div>\n
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