{"id":4450,"date":"2014-06-16T09:44:22","date_gmt":"2014-06-16T13:44:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/?p=4450"},"modified":"2014-06-18T23:08:49","modified_gmt":"2014-06-19T03:08:49","slug":"please-dont-feel-sad-im-three-sons","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/please-dont-feel-sad-im-three-sons\/","title":{"rendered":"Don’t feel sad for me because I’m having three boys!"},"content":{"rendered":"
I live in a very friendly neighborhood. All of our neighbors stop to chat and help out whenever needed. \u00a0It’s also a walking neighborhood where we’re able to walk everywhere we need to get to including playgrounds, school, banks, grocery shopping, coffee shops, clothing stores, presents, toys and much more. \u00a0With so much walking, it’s inevitable that you will frequently run into the same people. \u00a0Familiar faces are everywhere, so someone is bound to nod, smile or even say hi.<\/p>\n
More recently, with my baby bump protruding, more and more people in my neighborhood have stopped to speak to me. They typically ask me first is if I am in fact pregnant (Yes, I am…), which in of itself is a pretty risky question to ask a women. \u00a0Next they ask if the two boys dangling off me are my boys (Yes, they are) and then comes the question that I dread the most “oh………. are you hoping for a girl?”.\u00a0 Instead of telling them to mind their own business, which is what I really want to say, I politely smile and with a slight giggle I say “No, I already know it’s a boy”. With the biggest look of disappointment, they look back at me and all they can say is “ohhhhh….”<\/p>\n
What irks me is the following:<\/p>\n
1. It seems that as of lately, our society has been favouring the birth of girls over boys. I’m not sure where this came from, but I find it strange. Just as it was strange that not so long ago, the emphasis was on boys. \u00a0I believe that the thinking is along the lines of the special bond a daughter has with her mother and the fact that she will take better care of her aging parents compared to her male siblings. \u00a0While I know this to be true for several families, I also know of many families who have sons with close relationships to their mothers and take care of their parents. \u00a0For every mom that I know that has a close relationship with her daughter, I know another that doesn’t.<\/p>\n
2. It seems that people think I’m only having a third child because I want a girl. \u00a0Well guess what? The chances of having a girl dramatically decreased once I had two boys. I was well aware of this stat, and even before I had my first child, I always knew I wanted three kids (regardless of sex).<\/p>\n