{"id":2521,"date":"2013-08-12T08:42:07","date_gmt":"2013-08-12T12:42:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/?p=2521"},"modified":"2013-08-09T17:45:13","modified_gmt":"2013-08-09T21:45:13","slug":"the-five-day-progression-of-toddler-separation-anxiety","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/the-five-day-progression-of-toddler-separation-anxiety\/","title":{"rendered":"The five day progression of toddler separation anxiety"},"content":{"rendered":"

Two\u00a0weeks ago\u00a0I did the unthinkable… I dropped my son off at a day-camp and I DIDN’T STAY! (Yes, I’m shuddering at the horror too).\u00a0 My son Kyle is almost\u00a0three years old and will be starting nursery school in September.\u00a0 I figured I better get him ready for “mommy isn’t staying with me?” situation and signed him up for a 2-hour day camp for two weeks.\u00a0 I also joyfully welcomed\u00a0some alone time, which I haven’t had much of since\u00a0baby #2 arrived.\u00a0 Here’s how the week unfolded for those of you\u00a0might be facing similar separation anxiety from you little one.<\/p>\n

Day 1 –\u00a0Surprise!<\/em><\/p>\n

Walking\u00a0to class I hear a soft voice whisper “I don’t want to go to class” yet I remain strong and continue forward.\u00a0 We’re in class and everything is “okay” except for a pouty\u00a0lip here and there. The eyes are getting watery, but there’s no tears yet.\u00a0 We’ve spoken about this day for a few weeks now, even months.\u00a0 So we’re FULLY prepared to be left “alone” in the class for a few hours to play and have fun until mommy comes back.\u00a0 After a long hug and kiss, I walk out and immediately hear my son wailing and calling for me.\u00a0 It’s as if he’s surprised that I left him alone.\u00a0 I hesitate for a moment, thinking of going back in there to grab my son who must be in physical pain but then I realize the truth.\u00a0 I hover\u00a0around the corner, out of sight, listening to my son cry and call for me at the classroom door.\u00a0 I wait 1 minute, 2 minutes, 3 minutes to what seems like eternity until he’s finally carried away by one of the teachers.\u00a0 I decide it’s time for me to make my move as well.\u00a0 After all, I only have\u00a0two “free” hours and I had so much planned for the day. As I return to pick up my son, I sneak a peek through the glass and see him sitting happily on the mat listening to story time.\u00a0\u00a0Before I leave, I ask the teacher how the day unfolded.\u00a0 She told me that\u00a0he continued to cry for half an hour after I left, and he had a few other start-stop crying incidents afterwards.<\/p>\n

Conclusion – Not a successful first day away, but not a failure either\"SA1\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Day 2 – I know what you’re up to! <\/em><\/p>\n

We pumped up my son the night before for all of the fun things he’s going to do at camp today.\u00a0 He went to bed excited, or so we thought.\u00a0 Even before we leave for class my son announces that he doesn’t want to go to class today.\u00a0 With a little<\/del> lot of persuasion, we head off to day-camp.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0My son asks me to stay with him for\u00a0“just a little bit.”\u00a0 As I\u00a0give him a good-bye hug and kiss, the water-works begin;\u00a0\u00a0 This time,\u00a0BEFORE I leave.\u00a0The teacher has to physically remove him from me as he was clutching on to me for dear life.\u00a0 I pretty much bolted out of the classroom and never looked back.\u00a0 When I came to pick him up I was told that he only cried for approximately 5 – 10 minutes after I left.<\/p>\n

Conclusion – Not ideal, but things are looking up!<\/p>\n

Day 3 – I’m still not happy about this<\/p>\n

Mostly similar to day 2 except he only cried for about\u00a0five minutes after I left.<\/p>\n

Conclusion – Getting better<\/p>\n

Day 4 – I think I’m okay with this…<\/p>\n

While there was the typical resistance from the toddler of a) declaration of not wanting to go to class and b)\u00a0shedding\u00a0some tears\u00a0before I left, he stopped crying the minute I stepped out the door.<\/p>\n

Conclusion – things are looking up<\/p>\n

\"Kyle's<\/a>

Kyle’s artwork from day-camp<\/p><\/div>\n

Day 5 – hallelujah!! No more crying<\/p>\n

In the morning, before we leave for class, my son declares “I’m not going to cry today!”.\u00a0 I look at him in shock, but try to hide my surprise.\u00a0 After all, what he’s saying is like music to my ears.\u00a0 I don’t want to pressure him or anything, but I respond back saying “that’s great buddy.\u00a0 You’re such a big boy, you don’t need to cry.\u00a0 Besides, class is so much fun and I’ll pick you up before you know it”.\u00a0 I might have said too much, maybe he’s going to change his mind, but it is what it is.\u00a0 Walking to camp I try to\u00a0lead the conversation so he won’t get a chance to say “I don’t want to go to class”.\u00a0 We talk about all of the fun things he’s going to do in\u00a0class and what we’re going to do after class and on the weekend.\u00a0 We get to class, I give him the usual hug and kiss and guess what? He’s standing there, holding hands with the teacher and he’s not crying.\u00a0 His eyes aren’t even watery!\u00a0\u00a0I turn to walk away and he’s fine, he’s still fine.\u00a0 I leave and breathe\u00a0a big sigh of relief.\u00a0 SUCCESS.\u00a0 We really did it.\u00a0 It only took 5 days, but we did it.<\/p>\n

Conclusion – my son no longer suffers from separation anxiety!\u00a0 Wishful thinking, I know, but I’m going to stick to it and that’s that.\"SA2\"<\/a><\/p>\n

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