{"id":12865,"date":"2018-04-24T09:34:28","date_gmt":"2018-04-24T13:34:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/?p=12865"},"modified":"2018-04-27T09:04:10","modified_gmt":"2018-04-27T13:04:10","slug":"daughter-isnt-different-son","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/daughter-isnt-different-son\/","title":{"rendered":"Your daughter isn&#8217;t different than my son"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It happened again, as it most certainly will continue to happen for the rest of my life. I received someone else&#8217;s opinion about the &#8220;tragedy&#8221; of having all boys as children. The thing is, I&#8217;ve heard it so often now that I have gotten to the point where I just shrug it off to ignorance or difference of opinion. After all, I am so grateful and happy with an all boys team. But sometimes, I can&#8217;t help but wonder if maybe I am missing out because I don&#8217;t have a daughter. Not because I actually feel that way, but because every other person makes it their point to tell me that I am. Maybe they know something that I don&#8217;t? After all, I only have boys, so that&#8217;s all I know. Maybe having a girl would be a different experience in parenting. Maybe it would be a different type of love. I don&#8217;t actually feel that way, but maybe I should according to almost everyone out there.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-12877\" src=\"https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/edited-0011-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/edited-0011-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/edited-0011-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/edited-0011-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Mostly it&#8217;s all well-intending family members, friends and strangers (yes, even strangers have an opinion about my children&#8217;s gender). Which is why I often brush it off. But sometimes, someone says something to me that just strikes a chord and I can&#8217;t let it go. That is exactly what happened this past week when I was out with a group of friends. As it often occurs, conversation among parents inevitably turn to our kids. My friend (but not a close one), has three kids as well, approximately the same age as my kids except her oldest two oldest are boys, and the youngest is a girl. She mentioned how parenting her girl is SO DIFFERENT compared to parenting the boys. And while she didn&#8217;t come out and say it in these words, she meant that it&#8217;s BETTER! She assumed that because I have all boys, I wouldn&#8217;t understand what she meant (which is true), so she clarified the difference to me:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Her daughter is so affectionate and loving (compared to her sons)<\/li>\n<li>Her daughter plays well independently (compared to her sons who don&#8217;t)<\/li>\n<li>Her daughter is the center of attention of her brothers who worry and look out for her and often don&#8217;t fight with her (but the boys are constantly fighting)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-12878\" src=\"https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Nate-and-I-after-bath-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Nate-and-I-after-bath-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Nate-and-I-after-bath-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Nate-and-I-after-bath.jpg 1564w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I wanted to shout out from the top of my lungs and say &#8211; that&#8217;s exactly like my Nate! My youngest is just like your youngest! She attributes these parenting differences to the fact that it&#8217;s because she has a daughter, she never considered the fact that perhaps the differences are due to the fact that her daughter is the youngest (aka the baby) or that it&#8217;s just her personality. She just assumed. She didn&#8217;t even bother to ask me if it&#8217;s the same with my three kids to see if my youngest is different too. She just assumed that it was a gender difference and the worst part is that she felt bad for me. I could see it in her eyes, and I sensed it in her tone. Yes, I&#8217;m assuming too, but I&#8217;ve heard these phrases, quickly followed by &#8220;but of course it wouldn&#8217;t matter if I had all three boys&#8230;&#8221; enough times to know what she really felt and thought.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-12880\" src=\"https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/boys-playing-in-sand-576x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"576\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/boys-playing-in-sand-576x1024.jpg 576w, https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/boys-playing-in-sand-169x300.jpg 169w, https:\/\/mayahoodblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/boys-playing-in-sand.jpg 750w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 576px) 100vw, 576px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I guess, when I consider it, if nothing more, it makes me realize that I&#8217;m not missing out on not having a daughter. So perhaps next time I see her, I will thank her. Thank her for pointing out the obvious &#8211; parenting boys is just as wonderful and special as parenting girls!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It happened again, as it most certainly will continue to happen for the rest of my life. I received someone else&#8217;s opinion about the &#8220;tragedy&#8221; of having all boys as children. 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