Comments on: Am I a worse parent because I’m a Stay-at-home-mom?

By: binabug

binabug — Fri, 03 Jun 2016 20:31:45 +0000

I often felt like I was a bad mom because I couldnt stay at home and had to provide for my kids…I always had pictures of them on my locker for when I’d break down and cry ..it was to remind me why I was there. to put clothes on their backs and food in their tummys …. no ones the perfect mom, not even Princess Diana

By: Kamya

Kamya — Fri, 03 Jun 2016 19:17:55 +0000

Hahaha… ya took the words right out of my head. I always wondered if I’m not as good a parent because I let my 2-year-old run free outside his playpen, until dad the disciplinarian comes in and bellows that he’s going to fall out the backdoor or some other inane worry. Then I realized that letting things go is the only way to sustain patience and sanity in the long run. Kids are much more likely to respect and work with an adult who isn’t strict about every little thing.

My husband runs out of patience within an hour if he’s left with my son, and he definitely can’t pick his battles or be realistic about what a kid that age will and won’t do. You’re a better parent, not a worse one, for being a SAHM, because you know your kids inside out and how to get everyone through the day without expending a ridiculous amount of effort, and with sanity intact.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Fri, 03 Jun 2016 16:04:01 +0000

In reply to Rey. Would love to hear more about your travelling adventures! I am a stay-at-home mom and we are in the dream phase of a year off with the kids to explore. :) Encouraging to hear that it can be done and can go beyond the dream phase.

By: Kimberly Kwasek

Kimberly Kwasek — Fri, 03 Jun 2016 14:17:08 +0000

I can relate to this!! I have a 2 year old and I am a stay at home mom who is trying to recover my health! There are times when a cookie and fire trucks on YouTube are all that give my time to workout without having him under my feet – and you better believe I’m taking it lol. I see the value in not wavering in our decisions and keeping that stability to what our expectations for our kids are – but on the flip side, I think our moments of caving are equally as valuable! We are showing them that it’s ok to compromise and teaching them that it’s ok to change your mind. I think it’s important for them to see both aspects.

By: nicolthepickle

nicolthepickle — Fri, 03 Jun 2016 10:57:51 +0000

Your littles are the cutest. I love the boots.
No comments on the post subject. 😛

By: Rey

Rey — Thu, 19 May 2016 15:48:48 +0000

Don’t sweat it. You will never regret this time spent with your kids. In the middle of it all, you will find yourself thinking, good grief, is this ever going to end? And then poof, it’s over, and they’re adults.
Weekends with your kids is not the same as all week with your kids. Everyone is different, and maybe that’s what your friends need to do to survive. Don’t apologize for wanting to be there, but don’t be afraid to learn as you go, as well.
Twenty years ago, I was a stay-at-home dad when that was a very rare thing. I got some strange looks now and then, but I was certainly welcome at the neighbourhood playgroup when it was time to put the heavy gym equipment away.
Not having two incomes required that we made some sacrifices, so we weren’t going to DisneyWorld or Mexico every spring break, mostly because that wasn’t our thing, anyway. Instead, we scrimped and saved, then took a year off and travelled around the world with our kids because that was our thing (well, maybe my wife’s thing, but never mind).
Do your thing, be with your kids, and be the okay mom that they will grow to love and respect.

By: Maya Fitz

Maya Fitz — Thu, 19 May 2016 02:37:49 +0000

In reply to Sarah. Thanks Sarah. I really appreciate your comment... Means a lot to me. Always good to know we're not alone in this crazy journey of parenting! Xoxo

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 18 May 2016 21:47:29 +0000

There are very few mom blogs that really strike a chord with me and I could have written this. I love it. Totally agree.

By: homewithaneta

homewithaneta — Wed, 18 May 2016 14:18:21 +0000

Ditto Maya, I like to think I need to be a “mombie” sometimes just going through the motions to save myself. I can’t always be 100%, I need to take some for myself in this 24/7 gig