Comments on: Why we don’t force our kids to hug and kiss their grandparents https://mayahoodblog.com/why-we-dont-force-our-kids-to-hug-and-kiss-their-grandparents/ A blog about parenting, family-friendly travel & product reviews Fri, 14 Oct 2016 02:16:31 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.1 By: Top posts and Mayahood year in review https://mayahoodblog.com/why-we-dont-force-our-kids-to-hug-and-kiss-their-grandparents/#comment-23051 Thu, 31 Dec 2015 14:09:04 +0000 https://mayahoodblog.com/?p=6653#comment-23051 […] Why we don’t force our kids to hug and kiss their grandparents (2015) […]

]]> By: mommyof2babyboys https://mayahoodblog.com/why-we-dont-force-our-kids-to-hug-and-kiss-their-grandparents/#comment-17052 Tue, 23 Jun 2015 01:50:53 +0000 https://mayahoodblog.com/?p=6653#comment-17052 Wow! I never ever thought of it this way before! Thanks for an eye opening read!

]]> By: Elizabeth Vlug https://mayahoodblog.com/why-we-dont-force-our-kids-to-hug-and-kiss-their-grandparents/#comment-16788 Mon, 08 Jun 2015 13:33:49 +0000 https://mayahoodblog.com/?p=6653#comment-16788 What a great article and something I wish more parents would stop and think about. Could you imagine as an adult, and another adult “forcing” you to hug someone? So I am not sure why we expect our children to do so. My kids were always really shy, and I never forced them to speak or hug anyone, family included.

]]> By: loucheryl https://mayahoodblog.com/why-we-dont-force-our-kids-to-hug-and-kiss-their-grandparents/#comment-16757 Sun, 07 Jun 2015 16:20:25 +0000 https://mayahoodblog.com/?p=6653#comment-16757 I don’t like to force my boys to hug or kiss anyone either. It should be their choice if they want to. They do have to be respectful and great people when they meet them.

]]> By: Gene d https://mayahoodblog.com/why-we-dont-force-our-kids-to-hug-and-kiss-their-grandparents/#comment-16743 Sat, 06 Jun 2015 18:48:41 +0000 https://mayahoodblog.com/?p=6653#comment-16743 I’m lucky my kids absolutely love their grandparents and kiss and hug them everytime they see them

]]> By: Sara https://mayahoodblog.com/why-we-dont-force-our-kids-to-hug-and-kiss-their-grandparents/#comment-16717 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 15:42:00 +0000 https://mayahoodblog.com/?p=6653#comment-16717 So interesting, I’ve never really thought about this side of personal space but I definitely agree with you. From the time that my girls could speak, I have told them that their private parts are anything that a bathing suit covers & they should never let anyone touch those parts (except for with bathroom help). We’ve taught them all the correct words. I still worry though. I think that kids can develop such a strong sense of shame when something happens to them that they remain hesitant to speak.The Duggard family situation speaks to this. I struggle so much with how much to tell my kids and where the boundaries of sharing & oversharing lie. My oldest daughter is about to start kindergarten. What do you actually tell your children about boundaries? I’m just curious about how other moms are addressing this with their little people?

]]> By: Maya Fitz https://mayahoodblog.com/why-we-dont-force-our-kids-to-hug-and-kiss-their-grandparents/#comment-16715 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 13:16:33 +0000 https://mayahoodblog.com/?p=6653#comment-16715 In reply to Ashley Thorsell.

Yes. Your last point. I totally agree!!! It’s definitely something I want to instill in my boys too. Thanks for your comment

]]> By: Ashley Thorsell https://mayahoodblog.com/why-we-dont-force-our-kids-to-hug-and-kiss-their-grandparents/#comment-16714 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 11:53:37 +0000 https://mayahoodblog.com/?p=6653#comment-16714 Fantastic read! Intuitively, I’ve never wanted to force my kids to show or receive unwanted affection but I certainly have been guilty of doing so anyways. Perhaps because I couldn’t pinpoint how specifically it might be damaging, I would go against my better judgement and, like you said, play the middle man. I guess it goes to show that as a parent, it’s important to trust your gut and not fall into the habit of doing things because “it’s the way it’s supposed to be” or because “it’s the way it’s always been”. I’ve always maintained that I love my kids enough to be the bad guy (meaning that I’ll go to bat for them even if I know it won’t be received well by other people) and after reading this (thank you!) I’m going to apply that here too.

I’d like to add that I think by respecting your children’s right to say “no” to unwanted affection, it in turn teaches them to pay that same respect to others. This is an important lesson that I want my boys to learn at an early age so that they will grow into men who fully understand the meaning and the importance of consent.

]]> By: Kristy https://mayahoodblog.com/why-we-dont-force-our-kids-to-hug-and-kiss-their-grandparents/#comment-16690 Thu, 04 Jun 2015 00:03:08 +0000 https://mayahoodblog.com/?p=6653#comment-16690 Great post. It’s something that I honestly haven’t put much thought into because I always hug my parents and in-laws and ask my daughter to do the same. She’s not quite 2 yet. Some times she doesn’t want to, but it’s mostly due to her being shy I think more than a feeling of invading her space, but I should be more mindful of it. I agree that it’s a great lesson to teach. I also like the idea of ‘hugs or high fives’ that Jennifer mentioned.

]]> By: Anne B https://mayahoodblog.com/why-we-dont-force-our-kids-to-hug-and-kiss-their-grandparents/#comment-16647 Tue, 02 Jun 2015 19:51:38 +0000 https://mayahoodblog.com/?p=6653#comment-16647 I never forced my kids to kiss relatives – it was unbelievable how badly the adults esp. grandparents would react (vocally) and pout.( I HATED being forced to kiss relatives when I was a kid! Swore early on my kids would not have to do that!)

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