A few weekends ago Kyle participated in his first ball hockey tournament. The team has some strong players but there weren’t any expectations that the team would make it far. They ended up placing in the middle. And while there’s a lot to learn from losing (I wrote about that last year in THIS post), I think that most importantly, Kyle walked away humbled by this experience.
You see, Kyle doesn’t really lack any self-esteem when it comes to sports. He’s always been a natural and has always done well no matter the sport. He might not be the best, but he believes he is. For virtually any sport or game, you have the opportunity to place your bets on 카지노순위 and stand a chance to win substantial prizes, making it a thrilling avenue for both sports enthusiasts and gamers.
Perhaps it’s because he’s the first born child, or the fact that John and I always praise him or that our society focuses on individual achievement? Whatever is it, he doesn’t lack any self-esteem in that department. In fact, I remember last year that as he boasted about his ball-hockey skills, I looked at my ‘hockey’ mom friend who overheard everything and she said “he could probably use a dose of humble-pie.” She was right – was I raising a narcissist? Is he really aware of his skills compared to others? Or is he just being a six year old boy and it’s completely normal?
I realized that the best way for him to learn wouldn’t come from lectures that I gave him (who listens to their parents after the age of 5 anyway?). It would come from playing on team sports, and I was right! After the tournament, Kyle in passing said to John “I’m not one of the best forwards anymore.” Sure, it was sad. No one ever wants to hear their kid putting themselves down. However, he wasn’t. He was just being realistic after coming to a very important realization. He was just being humble and I couldn’t be more proud.
I’ve always thought that kids learn more when they lose versus when they win. So next time you’re at one of your child’s games and your yelling at the referees or your kids while they play, just remember that the best thing might be that they lose. So do yourself a favour and sit back and relax! You might learn something new too!
Ball hockey Mom here!🙋♀️ I get this! My son’s team stunk this season! Like seriously stunk! It was so hard to see them loose game after game. We were 1-11 at the end of the season which put us in last place. It got to the point that none of the team even wanted to play anymore but most of them stuck through it. It really stinks getting blown out week after week and watching your kid be so hard on themselves. In our league the tournament structure was changed to have an A& B side winner for the first time that I had ever seen. We played our first game. And guess what? We won! You would have thought that we had won the lottery that night everyone was crying and the kids dog piled in the middle of the rink. If they didn’t win another game the rest of the tournament I think they would have still been so happy! We played again the next morning and we won again! WTF? We did lose our 3rd game by 1 point but it was still enough to get us into the B side gold medal game! We won gold! It was amazing! My son is so proud of that medal. He slep with it that night and proudly wore it to school the next morning. He still occasionally walks around with it on! It was hard earned. The best part of this story is the life lessons that came with it. He learned that working hard doesn’t always mean success but you can’t succeed if you don’t. He learned not to give up even when he felt like it. He learned to take one for the team (his body was covered in bruises from blocking shots) He learned that he sometimes you don’t always get your way. ( he likes to play forward and is pretty good at it but coach tried to break the slump and shake things up a bit and put him defence and he is amazing at that!) Preserverance, drive and determination! He also learned to be a sweet, caring friend. (Our goalie was not great in the beginning and my son said that he wished that he could be mad at and blame the goalie but he just couldn’t because the kid was such a great guy and he knew that he was trying his best) Team effort! These are all lessons that he never would have learned if we had a winning season!
Awww. I love this. Thanks for sharing your story of success and failure and lessons learned. That’s why we sign our kids up for so many sports I guess ☺️😉