Comments on: Feeling guilty. Also known as being a mother

By: Maya Fitz

Maya Fitz — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 13:45:39 +0000

In reply to whirlwindmama. I have heard that there are a lot of resemblance between catholic and Jewish parenting. I haven't heard much about Cubans though. Thanks for your kind words :)

By: whirlwindmama

whirlwindmama — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 03:43:27 +0000

Love it. I am catholic and my parents are from Cuba. Guilt is just part of our culture. Keep writing you are great.

By: Diane

Diane — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 03:45:18 +0000

Great post Maya and so true in every sense!!! Although I loved my time with the little guy, I also ‘wished away time’ on a daily basis!!! Every day was a challenge but I also had you reminding me how precious it is (THANKS!!!). I feel like everyday I count down time until his next nap and worry about everything instead of just enjoying the moment. Guilt is part of the mama-gene…whether he’s too cold, whether I’m schlepping him all over town in his carseat is ruining his naps 🙁 Guilt will never go away but I do thank my Chinese parents in preparing me for this!!! xo

By: Kelly

Kelly — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 23:05:27 +0000

I don’t think you’re at all alone in wishing those first few months away. I was literally counting half-weeks until 12 weeks, as I was awaiting that ‘miracle happy time’ that everyone kept talking about! I too feel guilty about many things as a mom, but I think we’re too hard on ourselves- especially at the beginning when we’re experiencing a combination of sleep deprivation, crazy hormones and the life-altering adjustment of being a first time mother!!

By: mandy

mandy — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 14:56:52 +0000

Maya, guilt is natural! Let’s say you are further ahead than me. To do this we have spent only 1 night away from the kids, and that was for this past xmas party. I feel it everytime I think of leaving the kids with anyone other than Judd or myself. Not that i dont trust other people, but for me it is ALWAYS the worst case scenerio going through my head. What if joshua cracks his head open? ( We all know he has done this 3 times now, so not unlikely.) What is someone gets deathly sick, what if there is a fire? What if….. Never stops in my head. – have realized this is all me! LOL. So…. I have decided I will not feel guilty leaving them for a while, but will always come home for the night. Maybe when they are in their 20’s i will fell less guilty. LOL.