Two months before the holidays, I was putting clothes away in my closet when I almost fell over. I was pushing and squeezing new sweaters on to the rack when I realized that my closet was full of clothes that I haven’t worn in over two years. Granted, I was pregnant for one of those years, but honestly, I probably wasn’t going to wear many of these clothes again anytime soon. And so, an idea popped into my head: I need to purge some of my clothes so why not do it via a clothes swap with my friends. I was so excited that I sent out the evite two months in advance. As I was thinking about the logistics of the clothes swap, another thought entered my head. Why not somehow incorporate doing something for a good cause while I’m at it. And so, I sent out the following evite:
I don’t know about you ladies, but I’m in major need of a clothes purge. I figured I might as well make it fun and do it via a clothes swap while raising $ for a good cause. We’ll make it a girls night and enjoy some wine and cheese and of course, new (but used) clothes!
Items to be swapped can include both clothes and accessories (shoes, belts, purses, jewelry, hats, etc…) Also, bring along your favourite bottle of wine (or share one with a friend). I will provide the cheese (and other snacks).
Here’s the low-down: 1. Perfect swap (this means you want person X’s clothes and person X also wants something of yours). 2. Pay for clothes. If you don’t have any clothes to swap, or the person’s whose clothes you want doesn’t want anything from you, you will be able to purchase an item (for a nominal amount). The seller can either keep the $ or donate a portion of it to charity. 3. Any clothes remaining, you can take back with you or donate to charity (I will be making a Goodwill drop off the next day).
There’s no better way to spend a night than to enjoy the company of other ladies, mingle over wine and cheese, get some new duds, and even raise money for charity.
As I was purging my clothes in the weeks leading up to the event, I came to the realization that I’m a hoarder. Not enough to make it on a reality TV show, but enough to cloth a small village*. To be fair, I had accumulated 14 years’ worth of clothes. I think my hoarding problem persists beyond just my clothes though. Up until a few years ago, I had every single class note, assignment, and homework since grade 3 up to the end of my undergrad. My parents made me through it all out the year they were hosting 10 people from Israel for my brother’s wedding. Little do they know, I still have a box tucked away in their basement with notes that my friends and I wrote back and forth to each other during class, love letters from boyfriends past, and birthday cards from my bat-mitzvah…Okay, okay – I have a problem, I know!! But this clothes swap was me taking the first step in the right direction.
Last minute, I decided to also make this event a book swap to draw interest from some of my friends who aren’t into clothes as much as I am. The event was now titled Clothes / Book swap, wine and cheese. The occasion took place last Saturday night. Everyone set out their clothes, accessories and books around the living room.
With a glass of wine in one hand, and a pen in the other, we went around, checking out the goods, and putting our names down on the person’s pile whose clothes we wanted.
I checked through the lists, and the person who had the most names on their pile got to swap clothes with others first, and so it went, until the whole thing just turned into a free-for-all. There was a LOT of clothes there. After all of the formality, I started to show-case my clothes. I couldn’t believe some of my “gems” were not taken by the other girls. I mean, who wouldn’t want a late 90’s one-piece cat-suit?
And who wouldn’t want a brown leather, open back, strap top?
Apparently most of the girls were very selective with the clothes they brought over. I on the other hand, just brought out ALL of my clothes that have been sitting in bins in my basement for the past 6 years. This provided several hours of entertainment. A lot of my friends, who I only met 8 years ago, got to find out a lot more about my past through my clothes.
All in all, it was a great night. It was a great excuse to get the girls together and it was for a good-case. We didn’t raise any money, but we had over 6 huge garbage bags of gently used clothes that we’ve donated to a local charity that provides support to homeless and street youth. We all agreed that this should be an annual event. Even one of my friends who only came for the books left with some new boots. It also turns out that a lot of the girls were on a strict budget, so this was a great way for them to update their wardrobe without spending a penny. I would highly recommend coordinating a clothes / book swap with your group of friends. It’s fun, cheap and helps a good cause (the environment and those less fortunate).
I think that next year we’ll make it less formal and just do a “free-for-all”, and we’ll do more of the fashion-show / highlight reel to make it feel less like sorting through clothes at Winners (similar to a Ross in the US). Everyone left with some new duds and I even wore some of mine the next day. I already can’t wait until next year’s clothes swap. At least now I have an excuse not to purge for a whole year without being called a hoarder.
*Ok likely a large village
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Katie Bolla says
Maya, I think you and I suffer from the same hoarder in training syndrome. I too keep clothes for a very long time. I have clothes from grade 6 – believe it or not (and except for currently being 9 months pregant, I still convince myself that I can fit into them). And just yesterday at my parent’s house my mother noted that I have files from kindergarten through university that include my notes, assignments etc. A much needed purge is in my future.
Mayahood says
Good to know I’m not alone! You should def join us when we do it next… If you can bare to rid of your stuff. It’s not for the faint at heart 😉
Dawn says
awesome night Maya – wish I could have been there to try on the cat suit!!! In squamish we do it in the fall and the spring! Over the years we’ve added (and taken away) men’s clothes as well as kids clothes or shoes. We’ve also started to showcase a local artizan for the evening to show off their homemade collections for purchase, or foodie’s homemade goodies, etc that they usually sell at the farmers market. SO FUN and everyone leaves a happy camper 🙂 great post!
Mayahood says
Ohhh! Tnx for sharing Dawn! Such great ideas. I will def try to do something like that for next year. Maybe we will do it twice a year as well. I like the kids clothes idea too – just have to get our friends going on that 😉 miss you.
Diane says
sorry to have missed such an amazing night! by the way, i am very familiar with (and love) the catsuit & brown string top you showcased above! so sad to see them go 🙁
Mayahood says
Haha! See – I needed you there! You understand me 🙂 Love you! Xoxo
Bob/Frank says
Mayush
You are too funny. I so woulda loved to be there, I think Jeremy would’ve wanted me to be there too!! I am thee biggest hoarder he’s ever met. He can’t believe how much clothes I have….when I think I really have nothing to wear most the time! 🙂 I think I only recently got rid of some stuff you past on to me many many years ago. hahaha
I also have to comment on the hoarding of the class notes and love letters, what a good laugh -as I have done the same (threw everything else out and just kept some of those) I did get rid of some irrelevant ones…but still I had a good chuckle to myself and could all of a sudden see us sitting on the floor of your room or my room going through some of that stuff, and adding to it!!
I am loving your blog by the way, some great advice…getting nervous and excited for the big day- less than 3 weeks to go. (hopefully!!)
xxx
Carms (bob/frank??) LOL
Mayahood says
No wonder we’re such good friends! Great minds think alike 😉 Can’t wait to hear the big news. You’ll have to make some room for the little one, that’s for sure. Our intire main floor has now turned into a small Toys R Us for Kyle. So soon now for you – I can’t believe it. I’m so excited for you guys. xoxo
oilandgarlic says
What a great idea. I’ve heard of clothing swaps but the charity aspect is great. Love the catsuit.
Maya Fitz says
haha – thanks 😉 and thanks for stopping by.